"So it is Christmas and what have you done? Another year over, a new ones just begun." -John Lennon
Let's talk about New Year's resolutions. For one, we give them so much power, when in reality we can create change in our life whenever we wish. We do not need the permission of a new year to do so. My experience with them is that they can lead to self-shame, guilt and disappointment. When I was about 16 years old, I decided I was no longer setting resolutions, but goals or intentions that I wanted to accomplish for the year. These did not determine my worth if they were not met and I did not get down on myself if I "broke" them, the following day would be a new opportunity for me to continue to change I wished to see.
This is not to say that resolutions or bad or not helpful. Some people find them to be extremely successful. I personally find that it is a more positive experience to sit down, connect with myself and dream big. I get personal and I write down my deepest desires.
But how do I do this? I like to light a candle, burn some palo santo and sit down with my journal either in front of my altar or in a quiet space. I put on music that makes me feel happy and positive. First I close my eyes, taking a few breaths to set myself. Then I open my journal and begin to write. Here is an example of what it could look like:
2018 Intentions and Manifesting:
- Spend less time on my phone
- Spend time with women who light me up
- Travel more
- Teach at least 1 workshop each month
- Teach at at least 1 retreat
Do you see how these are intentions and things I want to manifest, not restrictions. There is more of a flow and room for breath, rather than "lose 15 lbs," "stop eating sugar," etc. It isn't that these are bad goals but I want to create less rigidity in my life and more room for flow and magic. When we open ourselves up to the flow of the universe, things beyond our imagination begin to happen.
I always encourage people to dream big! Reach for the stars, because you never know how the universe will respond. How are you setting intentions for the new year?